It’s not me, it’s you

Anosognosia: a deficit of self-awareness, a condition in which a person who suffers certain disability seems unaware of the existence of his or her disability.

To the general public, anosognosia is nothing more than a complex-sounding medical condition. Actually, most people don’t know what it is; they’ve never heard of it.

In reality, we see variations of anosognosia everywhere in our daily lives. People don’t know that something is wrong, either with them or their work. There are things that we just don’t know we don’t know–in other words, unknown unknowns. It’s a common thing–the only way we can solve the problem of “not knowing what we don’t know” is through other people.  That’s why it’s so important to communicate and share ideas, to be open to new perspectives; we need to receive feedback so as to improve on ourselves. We can’t live our lives in denial, only looking at things through one pair of glasses.

Just think about it. We all know one person in our lives (maybe) that is a terrible chef, but everyone assures them that their cooking tastes just fine. These little comments, no matter how well-intentioned, only perpetuate any confidence in their culinary talent. No matter how much you might not enjoy their food, you just don’t have the guts (or heart) to tell them, “Wow, can you put this back in the oven? Because I think you’re feeding me tapeworms.

If you ever find yourself in this position, there is probably a reason why your friends keep rejecting your dinner invitations

Or maybe you have tried; they just don’t get it. “There’s no butter or sugar in these butter cookies because I’m trying to go the healthy route,” they say, and you have no choice but to leave them wallowing in their puddle of denial.

It’s definitely a difficult thing to overcome, but that’s why it takes a lot of effort from both parties–people need to want help from others who are willing to give it. Think of it as something like wanting to cook for a friend who loves your food.

In essence, the key is to want to learn–in order to be successful, you must have an open mind.